Hello World,
I WANT TO LOOK GOOD FOR MEN!
“Well, I never thought I’ll ever be this anxious about meeting a guy but I like this one. His name is Abisola and he is a Lagos boy and he says he likes thick girls but I’m worried. I’m not even that sleek. My tummy is too big,I don’t even stand a chance. Look at my arms sha, I really want him to see me perfectly. I’m not good enough. I’m definitely going to have to book a cosmetic surgery appointment with Dr. Anu after all we are not going to be meeting till 3 months time. If I can look for the money and get this thing done. I’m sure the only thing left to pimp will be little work. I can’t possibly loose all this weight within 3 months without cutting through.”
“Sikeeee! But is this worth it?”
No baby girl. It’s not.
For the love of God please cut it out!
Physical attraction is not the only thing that makes this man find you so attractive he wants to crawl in your skin and spend the weekend there. I wish more women would understand this simple fact.
I mean I can’t ignore the fact that the thought of being inadequate creeps in buttttt you’re perfect for the heart that is meant to love you.
In the course of the blog post I spoke to a couple of sophisticated singles who are very good looking and are very sure about what the idea of a partner should be;
Ayo:
“I happen to be a very handsome man but… I personally love very intelligent, witty women that make me laugh and are fun to be with, yeah if she’s cute, that’s a bonus, but stunning looks are actually low on my list. When I talk about this things with my friend they are shocked why? Because when anyone meets up with me the very first thing they think of me is “the guy who loves girls with perfect brows, pimped body, straight legs and all that stuff” but I like to shock them. If you’re not smart then you’re not it because I’d rather have an intelligent and smart lady by me to help me through life than have an attractive woman who probably only cares about the shoe to wear church the following Sunday”
Kossi:
” I need a woman that makes love to my mind just by being herself. I think about her all the time and I can’t wait to call her why? Cause she’s gasp – actually INTERESTING and EXCITING just by being herself!
I’ve dated some stunning women who seem to think that all they need to do is sit there and look cute while being as interesting as watching moss grow on wet wood. Eewww!”
Liam:
“To me there is nothing on earth worse than a stunningly gorgeous but unintelligent woman ugh! Total turn off!
The lady I’m currently dating, the first time I took her out with some friends, after I dropped her off. My friends laughed, mocked her walking step, said she didn’t have class and she was too low class and they were guessing I was only after her for sex. But voilà! I didn’t even want to date her cause she was pretty or anything. She is smart, I mean effortlessly. I can look at her all day just trying to work. It makes her look so sexy and I feel soo proud of her than anything in the world right now. Period!”
The truth is,If you keep freaking out about being what you wrongly perceive as being “unattractive” you will eventually drive him away. Just continue being yourself.
Thing is, if he does decide to move on you will convince yourself that it’s because of you were “perceived unattractiveness”, which would NOT be it at ALL. You would’ve simply voted yourself off the island.
This guy DIGS you, DIGS being with you, finds you an amazing human being. I bet he’s dated several stunning moss growing on wet wood type women and HATED IT. You are like awesome sunshine after that horrible storm. Enjoy the moment with him and quit ruining it with your insecurity.
At the very least, use this as a learning opportunity to understand that here is far more depth to you than just your physical appearance.
You should want to look and feel good FOR YOU, no one else!
I want to work out for ME!
I want to look good for ME!
And want to feel good, for ME!
As a woman, its very easy to base how attractive you are or how good you are allowed to feel about yourselves on the level of attention you receive from men.
Growing up we are constantly told by the media and society what men “want” and “deem attractive”
We need to be curvy but not too curvy.
We need to have a big bum but not too big.
We need to be toned but not too masculine.
We need to be slim but not too slim – and on and on it goes.
I personally have wasted years thinking that I was only attractive if a man thought I was. I placed a lot of the confidence I had in myself in the hands of the partners I was with or potential partners I was speaking to.
Your validation and confidence should be in no one else’s hands but YOUR OWN!
You deserve to feel good FOR YOU!
You deserve to look good FOR YOU!
Your partner or potential partner should NOT be the SOLE reason for your confidence, they should only ADD to the confidence you already have!
Your worth should NEVER be dictated by someone else’s inability to see it.
It’s important you make steps to give YOURSELF that validation you truly DESERVE, only then will no one else be able to take it from you ♥️ –
Being;
Attractive:
Pleasing or appealing to the senses
Beautiful:
Pleasing the senses or mind aesthetically.
If you ask me, I would only want to be remembered as “beautiful” than “attractive”.
Attractive is good but tbh everybody is to someone but it takes a true beauty to recognize beauty.
So stay beautiful
You are beautiful !!
Love and light💕 Tee.
ABOUT ME (Keepingupwithtee_ rebirth)
My name is Theodora Ushie fondly called Tee, lives in Calabar, Nigeria. I am the curator and author of Keepingupwithtee_(KUWT). I am the Founder of the Female Empire Initiative(FEMINEMPIRE) an NPO based in Calabar, Nigeria. Still under few “construction” but hopefully to be in its suites within now and next year in ernest. I am the average Nigerian female who is is very passionate about art, life, body positivity/ friendship and self discovery as they are the condiments to a full and happy life.
I’m a carrer writer who specializes in freelancing and blog writing. I’m a Feminist who understands the concept of Feminism and doesn’t change the narrative to being a “Man hater“. I like to think that I inspire alot of people through my writing and I hope to create tremendous impact in the world someday in the nearest future. I’m a plus size teenager who fought her way through depression over the years and has been triggered all over again and still fighting. I want to therefore bit by bit use my story, influence and skill to touch lives positively and create an impact in my community and society at large.
I am a student at University of Calabar where I study Pharmacy (Faculty of Pharmacy) I love traveling on short trips, reading/writing articles and daydreaming. When I’m not doing either of these, I’m creating content for adverts, and can be found taking care of my family or binging on YouTube or Netflix as the case may be. I’m passionate about social issues and my goals in life are to be happy, successful and to make social impact and change in my community.
I started writing short quotes and stories from as early as I could form a sentence and that sort of stuck and in 2018, I began blogging here.
Keepingupwithtee_ is a life blog that is aimed at connecting with and inspiring you to help create your best lifestyle and very much like life, it can’t be defined by a certain niche. You can definitely expect a mashup of everything as life is a mashup of many things and that’s what makes life beautiful.
Join me as I navigate through and find beauty in life and everything in between…
Welcome to the Keepingupwithtee_ Clan, subscribe and join me on this wonderful journey called Life as we navigate through and find beauty in life and everything in between…
Love and light❤
Tee.
We made it through halfway! Happy July.
Hey guyssss
Happy New month
I just want to honestly thank God because this year so far has been a rollercoaster I wasn’t looking forward to. It really put me on grounds that I was never sure to stand on. Brought out the weakest part of me and the strongest yet. This past 6 months of 2020 haven’t been exactly what I prepared for but yet “We move” isn’t it?
I’m just here to remind anybody and everybody reading this of how strong you are, how resilient you are and how you will keep evolving.
This past months I met people I probably should have never known but then God has a purpose for every turn and every full stop in life, best believe so why worry?
Honestly I can’t say I’m happy or excited but I’m thankful because I’m not even worthy to be here alive but yet, I’m still here. Some of us, lost loved ones, people we thought we could count on forever. People we planned to make happy in about 10 years or less. We can’t hold them, we can’t feel them, we can’t speak to them, we can only relate to them on spirit levels as per till we meet to part no more. The grieve this year has been on a whole new level but practically “We intentionally move”
“Affliction will not rise the second time”
Honestly, what should I be thankful for?
• for good friends, people who relentlessly put effort to making you feel proud, feel helpful, feel needed. People who make an effort to keep you happy because that is all that matter
• For life, good health. I would have passed on atleast on 2 occasions this year but I survived strongly and yes I’m proud to say I didn’t fight for it. It was a gift in which I’m super thankful for.
• For family, honestly alot of my friends have lost their mothers, fathers and I’m like “Lord Jesus, I’ve not been in my best behaviour, I’ve not even taken you seriously but yet this much mercy I can’t comprehend”. Thank you Lord
• For strength to overcome emotional stress and pain. Because that especially drained me the most this year. Moving from almost depressed to very blithe is a gift that no human can give.
• For academic breakthrough. I will forever be grateful for this because when all hope is lost, you always always come through.
I’ve been learning alot of positive things these past few weeks and I’m willing to impact as well hence the baby steps.
I want to slightly use this opportunity to thank all of you that have been coming here to read my posts, help me share, drop comments to keep me going, send lovely encouraging messages to my Dm… and many more you all are the real MVP’s honestly. I will never throw it away.
On that note, let’s use this 2 minutes and do this healthy positive manifestation for the second half of the year together.
• I shall remain in good health for the rest of the year
• I shall progress in everything that I do
• I will be raised from the level that I am now to a greater one and the greatest after that because I’m here for all of it
• I shall not loose a soul of a friend or family
• I will continue to be at peace with my friends and family
• I will improve in every failing part of my life from this very moment.
• I will grow and glow
• I will have the best days of my life
• Sucess will hunt me. Amen
Thank you so much for sticking with me and reading this to the end, if you’ve said those affirmations with your whole heart be ready to feel the impact of change and peace wide-ranging.
Love and lighttttt 🕊
Tee.
Life lately
2019
I am sitting in my room, waiting for the remaining thoughts to show up for our daily meet and I finally decided to put the wait time to good use and come back here.
It feels as though I have been more absent than present here in the past year or so and almost each time I promise to do better, I don’t.
Looking at it now, it just goes to show sometimes, life doesn’t exactly give you what you think it should or pan out the way you imagined. I never knew 2019 would be the year that broke me down and built me back up stronger and more in tune with the universe. I shared a whole lot on my insta and in real time about the up’s and downs I faced.
Catch up here
https://www.instagram.com/p/CAVwboYAyjz/?igshid=hvll1wvkbozk
Life lately;
Pharmacy school has been tough, I kid you not. It is not a joke and now I can fully relate to all the college memes I see on social media. From the feeling of frustration to rushing to meet deadlines to just wanting to drop everything and go back home, I felt it all. Sincerely when I was in secondary school, I was like “common, this college people are exaggerating it can’t be that bad after all it’s just university right?”
Assessments although better than taking exams, are demonic things that somehow find a way to break my back but I would like to think I have gotten a hang of it.
Update in 2020 –
Making friends in the adult stage is hard af! It’s almost like I miss my childhood/old friends and so, am not very keen to mingle with the new people I meet but then end up feeling like a lone wolf when I don’t have any school engagements.
I miss the banter that comes with being too far from home
I made friends and had a ton of travel. Places like Lagos, Akwa Ibom, Port Harcourt and Ibadan got ticked off the list even though I’ve been to Akwa Ibom most of the time. Here’s to hoping more travel comes in the future! Plus I really need to finish college and start thinking of travelling to places outside Nigeria.
2020
Welcome to the new decade clan! How did January go for you?
I started this post originally in 2019 but I fell out of the zen mode and found myself in 2020 on the 31st of January rushing to meet the deadline of at least 1 post per month. Why you might ask? I had a group of writers which I was accountable to and so, in usual Theodora fashion, I will keep to my word.
New decade update:
I’m turning 19 finally! P.s.. but there’s honestly nothing soo exciting about it
I finally started video editing and doing content creation with tik tok, went live on Instagram sometimes when I was really active. Why? Because Insta is a whole job. You should check out my Tiktok here; My tiktok profile
https://vm.tiktok.com/JemPges/
Moving ahead I’m thinking of moving to a new insta platform because I feel like I’m grown beyond the initial one. Feel free to join the community when it’s available. I’ll keep you posted concerning that
I lost loved ones to death and lost a supposed love of my life (gist for another day)
I returned to home base in Calabar,Nigeria.
Because apparently we have a very deadly virus killing millions and millions of humans every day round the world. Honestly, at first I thought it was all a joke and it will end soon but the way things are going we might have to tighten up a bit longer cause with the rate at which the virus spreads it will almost be impossible for the FG to release everybody all at once not to talk of the whole world. Sigh.
I wanted to be a good person this year. A better friend, listener, creative and all round person. And tbh I think I’m doing good soo far.
I have so much to write about and to share but this will have to do for now. Hopefully in the coming days, weeks, months as the case may be I get my mojo back and get back into being the consistent queen you all deserve to have.
Love and light,
Tee.
Before cockcrow musings!
So! I’m here again. To drop something like I always do(irony). I’m deeply sorry for not always being here!😫But there’s a tiny difference this time, this is between me and my keyboard. I’m not drafting anything just thoughts flowing through my head. I’m putting this down from about 03:46am and I hope I’ll be done by exactly 4:20am. Okay that’s by the way!
I woke a bit early today let’s say at about 1:30am. I had school work to rush up and then my normal meditation and I realized I had almost forgotten the most important things of my life those things that actually would make me happy, those things I know even on my low balance days I’d still be mega wealthy on, like seriously life really is or could be a mess sometimes. I really hope I’m taking this to the right direction though. I thought about my life in general, I mean all the days of my life, my childhood and now remembering that I will be gradually leaving this whole teenage stuff and adulting! Finally adulting??? When I remember that fact I really miss those dependent times but at the same times it’s good stuff when I really get independent, I mean really independent with the independent there meant to be very emphasized. Well? Whatever happens I don’t think I would have had life any other way, it’s my story and I’ll still tell it all the same. So back to where I was going to say thank you to the man who has actually given me grace to handle things I know people my age would definitely not be able to handle, Jesus has been great and I think lately I’m beginning to understand what the saying;
“He is the author and finisher of my fate”
There was a time in my life when nobody around me knew my age, just myself and my parents. Even my siblings couldn’t handle the fact that there would always be confusion when an uncle or aunts wants to know my age and everyone goes like she’s…, no she’s… wait she’ll actually be… and yes even back then in school I felt what’s the need to know my age when all you will ever do is to probably use it to judge and guide me, when it doesn’t really matter but I was wrong, I spoke as a child with a naive mind. I got scared and furious anytime someone showed deep concern to know my age. I’d just be like “why do you want to know my age? Is there something you can’t tell me without knowing my age?” I was defensive to every and anything. All that is passed now cause I don’t care how much or how far you use my age to judge me whether by looks or character, this is me and this is who I will always be and that I know for a fact. I’ve just come to agree with myself that they’re some things we can’t just change. So today I’m just trying to reconsider some steps and straighten some curved parts of my life that are ought to be straight because 18 to me is no joke. From here, I know everything I do will surely lead me to my future, the future I’ve been looking up to is already here,all the positive thinking and inner balance they have to be put in place at this point cause I can barely think of the other steps I’ll be taking from here when obviously the line has been crossed. There’s no sugarcoat to be done, I’m actually adulting!
I’m just thankful for the things that have been set aside for just me cause they’re no two me’s and that is great cause I won’t be sharing my dream, my achievements, my worries, my pain, my cries and all of that. It will be just me and all of that. It’s a good things to finally get to that point.
At this point I feel really emotional, alot of things are crossing my mind. I even miss old friendships , relationships, they’re alot of people I will be needing back in my life cause I can’t do this journey without them and for those God has put in place for me at the moment, I’m grateful cause I don’t even the deserve the least of the best but I get the best. It’s just raining sweets over here. Emotions flying all around the place but it’s too early to have an outburst, I’ll save it for sad times or so? And remember I had a time frame to come on here and drop this I hope when you all, I’m referring to my family, friends, tutors ,teachers and my readers all over the world would actually enjoy this and as usual drop encouraging comments and wishes for me(that will always keep me going). I never even thought I’ll ever get constant readers from other part of the world viewing my posts doing the keeping up instantly. I never thought that would ever happen even this early but y’all have made me wake up to the reality that reality is spelt and defined differently from dreams and I appreciate that. I’ve learnt alot educationally and otherwise. I’m really happy about that.
When a reasonable amount of viewers get to see this? I’ll drop another post, I promise. I love you all!
Love and lighttttt 💕💕💕
What I realised about having sex for the first time.
I know I’ve been off the blog a while and content had been withdrawn a while but as it is here in Nigeria. With the weather, school activity and of course the block of all time. It has kept inactive and all away but this should mean we will be having more contents and more blogging.
As regular as possible.
Happy August! My month started off well as I realized a lot of things people dont know. And yes it’s not a taboo to talk about your sex experience. Especially with closed ones. Make it a form of sex education. It’s very important as vital.
So early hours of yesterday, I got a link to a blog post by a Muslim blogger whom I’m not really familiar with. In that post she talked her first sex experience as an embarrassing one. She said she would rather spend the whole day sobbing and regretting than talk about. I got really engrossed in the post and decided to read more. As we all know, sex is the act of penetration of the male sex organ known as the penis into the females organ known as the vagina, commonly used as a mode to make babies-reproduction. She was a Muslim since birth and had not had a single sex experience. She met her husband through a phone call which was not all informal so she kept on meeting up with him and went on dates with him till they got married 2 years and 1 month later. She only knew or had knowledge of sex through her friends who were experienced and through out all her research to know about sex she only knew it will be all fun and pleasure. Nothing strange.
Her wedding was all successful and they were ready to head off for their honey moon. So immediately after the wedding and dance off, they went straight out for their honey moon in a park, I can’t remember correctly. As normal her husband made the first move, poured ice cream all over her face down to her body to make her feel comfortable and then her licked and began to go straight foreplay also using the tip of his penis to warm her up. She felt she was ready. With their bodies all excited, he tried to penetrate but he couldn’t. All she could feel was pain, her husband didn’t want to hurt her so he tried to make both of them go to rest but she insisted and said they should just try and when they tried and tried all she could feel was pain and she cried out a bit. Her husband covered her up and put her head on his chest and put her to sleep. She woke up the next morning, feeling embarrassed and very unusual. She felt the worst and she thought she wasnt normal.
I thought my wedding would be amazing, but it brought more pain than pleasure, She said.
After that sleepless night, they spent the morning discussing why their first night had gone so badly, while browsing the internet for answers. She wanted to know why she’d experience so much pain, as opposed to the pleasure she longed for. She had learned that sex could be painful for first-timers. But she would always hear that it was just a slight pain caused by the puncturing of the hymen, which was immediately succeeded by pleasure.
As she found out firsthand, this was a fallacy, at least in her own case. But she couldn’t be the first woman to ever experience this, so why was no one talking about it? Was it taboo? Something never to be mentioned out loud? As much as she thought she had learned about sex, she began to realize there was so much she’d missed in my research.Her husband and her decided not to try again until we were both psychologically ready. After all, they told each other, every marriage is different and unique in its own way.
About a week after her wedding, she sought the opinion of a dear friend who happens to be a gynecologist. After a brief examination, she said that she had a lot of hymenal tissue which was relatively inflexible. It was this tissue that was causing her so much pain.
Of course this made her research about the different hymens and how they affect the body. Where we grow up nobody ever puts emphasis on how the hymen is what it should be. All they cared about is that it should be intact.But the hymen,a thin membrane surrounding the opening to the vagina, actually comes in different shapes and sizes. The “normal” hymen, which is the most common, has the shape of a half moon. There are, however, three other types of hymen that can complicate first-time sex.
The imperforate hymen completely covers the opening to the vagina. In addition to preventing anything from coming in, menstrual blood cannot flow out. There’s also the microperforate hymen, which almost completely covers the opening to the vagina. It typically doesn’t affect the flow of menstrual blood, but it can be very difficult to insert or remove a tampon. Lastly, the septate hymen has a band of extra tissue that creates two vaginal openings instead of one.
Learning about all these hymenal variations made me realize how little understanding I have of my own body. She wished that I had taken the time to get familiar with her own vagina, instead of waiting till her wedding night to discover something so crucial about herself.
She had 2 options. Either to do a minor surgery to remove the excess tissue or do lots and lots of foreplay and application of lubes before sex. Her phobia for surgery made her choose the second option. In which even after all the foreplay they would do and even the husband using the tip to warm her up made her bleed all the times she had sex. It brought her so much pain not until 17 months later after she gave birth to her first child through pushing and finally started having sex like every normal person and experiencing pleasure in intercourse.
This is really a wake up call every female out there, even myself we should learn more about our bodies and get more exposed with or without the help of our family members or relatives as the case may be. We should just be aware. Explore your body and know what exactly your body needs and the parts to pay attention to. We should learn to be more familiar with our own anatomy instead of giving in to those of our friends. Our bodies are different and need different types of attention.
Sex is natural. It is not something to be ashamed of. Various cultures and societies have presented sex to us as something so private and shameful that we have forgotten to look into why God created something so beautiful in the first place. Instead of sweeping sensitive issues under the carpet, and suffering in silence when things go wrong, maybe we should all be a little more honest about what goes on behind closed doors.
Let’s be more closer to our bodies from now on. Learn our bodies and know what we need.
Love and extreme light♡♡♡
02/08/2019
A letter to the younger version of myself
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Taking care of my mind and body. Becoming better every day. Building a business that provides me financial freedom and impacts the world. These are the things I care about the most. In the recent years, I made many mistakes and wrong decisions. I acquired bad habits but at the same time, I learned many lessons. The school of life allowed me to understand myself and what I want from life.
Today, I am dedicating this post to my younger self. Below are some of the things I would tell my younger self at different stages of my life.
Infant to a Teenager
At this stage of life, you can not do much. You don’t have an opinion. You have to follow everything without questioning and accept things as people tell you.
Play more. Play, smile, laugh and be free. People become angry, sad, sick, selfish, greedy and poor because they don’t play enough. Don’t get discouraged by others, you have so much happiness inside of you, enjoy it.
Love yourself and the world. Love is the answer. I mentioned you people who don’t play enough become sad for life. Your love can heal them.
14-Year-Old Myself
Now you collect experiences, ideas, choose role models and recognize emotions. You question yourself to find your identity.
Try new things. Have fun building and breaking. Read books that don’t look good for teachers or parents. Watch movies and everything possible to form your own opinion. Most important question everything.
Listen more. Actively listen and analyze what you are hearing. Question everything and try to make connections. Relate. Any fool can judge and critique but only smart ones will try to empathize and make connections.
You have no limits. If anyone tells you can’t do something, they’re showing their limits. Most of the time these people will be the closest to you, your family, friends, lovers. Love them but don’t listen to their limitations on you.
17-Year-Old Myself
You already know what you want in life. Be brave and ask yourself what makes you excited. What idea sounds so surreal that it gives you chills when you think about it? What is it that keeps you awake at night? That scary idea is your real life calling. Even if you don’t know where it’s going to lead, even if everyone else thinks it’s stupid. Believe in yourself and go for it. Don’t ask for permissions and just do it.
Make no excuses and find a way. To make you more confident, I’ll tell you that no one knows what they are doing. It just looks that they know.
Pursue your dreams. Start creating a plan to achieve your goals. Focus on what excites you and collect the information about your calling.
Start writing. Clear communication is a key to personal and professional success. Practice writing every day. Write about your day. The show you have seen, your feelings, fears and dreams, love and the perfect world. Make it interesting.
Don’t try to be important. Your ego will demand attention, ignore it. Serve anyone without expecting anything in return. Amazing things will happen once you shift your mindset and start enjoying helping others. You will see how paying it forward comes back in the most beautiful and unexpected ways.
Meditate. This may sound like a woo-woo but it will solve most of your problems. Calmness, peace of mind, confidence and stability. These are some of the benefits you will gain from meditation.
Don’t be childish. Don’t give up on your ego pressure. It’s fine to break your word. If you made a stupid promise or a stubborn statement just because you wanted to be different. Admit your mistakes and move on.
Fear nothing. If it doesn’t threaten your life, fear nothing. Want to talk to that attractive girl in school? Do it. Want to start a blog? Do it. Want to speak at an event? Do it. All these acts outside your comfort zone will scare you to death but will enrich your life 10x.
Be bold. Stand for yourself. If you believe in something, go all in and don’t soften when people start pouring their sh*t on you.
Body Image
As girls, we are forced to deal with the ever-changing cycle of change. Our bodies are changing and flourishing into womanhood. Then we experience even more change when we have children. So get used to it, and learn how to embrace it, because we are the most adaptable creatures on earth.
Womanhood has its ups and downs. Your breasts will start to grow and for some they will grow larger than for others — and there’s nothing wrong with that. Work with what you are given. Who knows, you might actually like them when you get older, so learn to embrace them.
When I was about 14 years, a friend I’d not play comfortably with on a normal day was playing with me until I didn’t notice when I jumped so high my breast began to dangle real fast and he said “Woahhh Woahhh those are some big boozoka’s” I felt really awful and ashamed. I taught it was a bad thing. But it wasn’t after all.
I only wanted to wear big sweaters after that. I allowed a stupid comment to get into my head and it changed how I perceived myself and how comfortable I was in my own skin.
What I wish I had realized then is not to let stupid boys or ignorant comments change who you are. And don’t ever let anyone make you feel different.
Your weight IS going to fluctuate. It is what it is. So stop starring at the mirror, and don’t give yourself a complex that’s only going to fill your head with nonsensical body images that aren’t realistic. Learn to take care of your body and love it just the way it is.
I encourage you to seek healthier alternatives; eat healthy, indulge whenever possible, don’t sit on your butt for too long. Get out there and learn to enjoy long walks or hikes. Enjoy mother nature. You’ll find that it’s therapeutic and a way to clear your mind when things get too overwhelming.
They are so many other things I’d like to tell you dear younger self but these are the most important ones as I have only grown to the stage of a teenage adult and not a full grown woman by that I mean a mother.
They are so many things I didn’t mention reasons be that the mistakes I must have made taught me a lot more than any advise will. So youngster Theodora I beg you go to laugh at every confusion, enjoy the ride
Allow yourself to cry but don’t drown in your feelings. Fight a good fight and live in your truth.
Love ❤
Your much older self
Photo credit: Maestro photography
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